We all want our new baby treated right. But lets try to get past the emotional part and look at the mechanics. The internal parts need to "break in" or experience some ware. So the "break in oil" needs to allow this. I would be willing to bet that the dealer who mentioned "break in oil" had a prior customer who asked if they could use synthetic oil right away. Synthetic oil is too slick for proper break in. Once the parts have mated we can change the oil or leave it alone untill the manual recommends the first change. Why do we change oil in the first place? It breaks down over time and use. That break down reduces it's ability to lubricate. Fresh oil, once the engine is broken in, can NEVER hurt.
Hope this helps.